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Bride and Groom Parents Host - Invitation Wording

When both sets of parents are acting as hosts for your wedding, the invitation wording can change to suit your particular situation. Etiquette and tradition play a role in more formal invitation options, but there are plenty of casual options as well.

A few things to consider:

  • Always start with the parents of the bride first.
  • Use your invitation to convey important information with the words you choose.
  • Ceremonies conducted in a religious venue are formally indicated with "request the honour (or honor) of your presence" while other non-religious locations are often indicated with "request the pleasure of your company."
  • Casual invitations offer a lot of room for personalization.

Here are some specific examples of formal and casual options.

To make these options fit your needs, just change the names, dates and location information. For additional help on creating your wedding invitation wording, be sure to look for the "Make It Yours" information blocks for additional tips.

Formal Options:

Ceremony in a House of Worship

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Jones &
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Alexander
request the honour of your presence
at the wedding of
Ms. Jane Helen Jones
to Mr. Ben Christopher Alexander
Saturday, the eleventh of June
two thousand eleven
at two o'clock
First Congregational Church
Baltimore, Maryland

Ceremony with Catholic Mass

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Jones &
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Alexander
request the honor of your presence
at the wedding of
Ms. Jane Helen Jones
to Mr. Ben Christopher Alexander
and your participation in the offering of a Nuptial Mass
Saturday, the eleventh of June
two thousand eleven
at two o'clock
First Congregational Church
Baltimore, Maryland

Jewish Ceremony

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Jones &
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Alexander
request the honor of your presence
at the wedding of
Ms. Jane Helen Jones
and Mr. Ben Christopher Alexander
Sunday, the twelfth of June
two thousand eleven
at two o'clock
Congregation Beth Israel
Baltimore, Maryland

Buddhist Ceremony

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Jones &
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Alexander
invite you to witness
the joining of two hearts and two families
Ms. Jane Helen Jones
to Mr. Ben Christopher Alexander
Saturday, the eleventh of June
two thousand eleven
at two o'clock
Dharma Retreat Center
Marin, California

Ceremony in a Non-Religious Venue

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Jones &
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Alexander
request the pleasure of your company
at the wedding of
Jane Helen
to Ben Christopher
Saturday, the eleventh of June
two thousand eleven
at two o'clock
White Rose Wedding Chapel
Charleston, South Carolina

General Formal Invitation with Family Variations

Mr. Thomas Jones & Mrs. Eleanor Jones &
Mr. Jonathan Alexander and Mrs. Melissa Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the wedding of
Jane Helen Jones
to Ben Christopher Alexander
Saturday, the eleventh of June
two thousand eleven
at two o'clock
Mondavi Vineyards
Napa, California

Make It Yours
  • Last names are not required for the bride and groom if their parents' last names are listed above. If a stepfather is included with a different last name, it is helpful to include last names for the bride and groom.
  • Using Mr., Ms. or Miss is optional for the bride and groom, but expected for the names of parents.
  • For a Jewish ceremony, use "and" between the names of the bride and groom instead of "to."
  • If a Catholic mass is part of your ceremony, include the following after the groom's name: "and your participation in the offering of a Nuptial Mass"
  • You can tone down the formality by omitting the traditional English spelling of "honour" and instead use the word "honor."
  • Mothers may wish to have their full names included in a more modern style of traditional formal wording.

Casual Options:

Ceremony in Any Location

Ellie and Tom Jones with
Melissa Smith and Jon Alexander
invite you to join in celebrating the marriage of their children
Jane Helen Jones
to Ben Christopher Alexander
Saturday, June 11, 2011 at 1:00
at the First Congregational Church
in Oakland, California

Couple's Names Side by Side

Ellie Jones and Tom Jones along with
Melissa Smith and Jon Alexander
invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
Jane and Ben
Saturday, June 11, 2011 at 1:00
at Ellie's home
2441 Post Street in Arlington, Virginia

Parents Names All On One Line

The Jones and the Alexanders
invite you to the wedding of their children
Jane
to Ben
Saturday, June 11th, 2011
at sunset
Wilson Beach
Kihei, Maui, Hawaii

Parents Names All On One Line - Option #2

The Jones Family and the Alexander Family
invite you to celebrate the marriage of
Jane
to Ben
Saturday, June 11, 2011 at 1:00
at the First Congregational Church
in Oakland, California

Short and Sweet

The Jones Family and the Alexander Family
invite you to the wedding of
Jane and Ben
Saturday, June 11, 2011 at 1:00
First Congregational Church
Oakland, California

Short and Sweet - Option #2

The Jones Family along with
the Alexander Family
invite you to celebrate the wedding of
Jane and Ben
Saturday, June 11, 2011
at sunset
Wilson Beach
Kihei, Maui, Hawaii

Make It Yours
  • You can use "with" or "along with" to divide the names of the parents.
  • To make things even more casual, you can omit last names for the parents.
  • Include the location address unless it is being more clearly detailed in another enclosure with your invitation.
  • On a casual invitation, you can freely select the format for the date, either just showing the Arabic number (e.g., June 18) or you can add the st, nd, rd or th (e.g. June 18th or the 18th of June).